Yesterday, we were celebrating our baby girl’s first birthday, me (the mother who was also born a year ago), and Sugar (surprise pre-birthday party). First and foremost, I want to thank God for giving Sugar… More
Do you know what beats birds singing at the start of a new day? Breakfast–of course. Banana pancakes, scrambled eggs, Italian sausage, Greek yogurt… Or some stew to feed your soul if you are sick like me. In fact, that’s exactly what I did this morning: I got out of bed and made some stew.
Then, I cut some flowers, grabbed my sketchbook, and went back to bed with a small bowl of stew that was simple and hearty. Just what the doctor ordered!
Breakfast in bed. From me. To me. I mean, why not?
As most of you already know, there are tough times in a marriage–even the healthy ones. And knowing that, you have probably asked yourself whether you are with the right person a million times before.
If you are still wondering, let me ask you this: are you happy despite job loss and unemployment stress, uneven success, miscarriages, times of despair, to name a few? If your answer is yes, then, maybe you are with your person. Why? Because it is not about who your parents expect you to be with, for instance. It is more about who makes you happy no matter what life throws at you both. Moreover, marriage is an institution that is wonderful and complicated at the same time. Rest assured, when one says that he/she is happily married, he/she is not referring to the old fairy-tale ending.
Based on my humble opinion, I think that you may be with a good match if in moments of marital discord, you can step back and think of how grateful you are to have this person in your life. I, myself, can tell you that I knew that Sugar was the one because I felt a sense of rightness when I was about to walk down the aisle. My only hope is that you, too, can be able to identify this feeling and know that you have landed where you are supposed to be.
Sugar and I asked other couples how they knew that their partner was their soulmate and here are their answers:
I have been married to Jordan now for over 2 years (3 years on April 27) and I knew he was the one because he was the first person I had dated who I felt completely comfortable with. I didn’t need to have a guard up and could really be myself around him. I think that’s something that a lot of people overlook in a relationship but to me it is very important. –Natalie & Jordan
I wasn’t the one who chose my husband. He chose me. We got married 5 years after we started dating, but he proposed only two years into the relationship. Since the day we met, I knew he was the one I wanted. –C. B. & P. B., married since 1988
He stood out to me when I realized that he had all the qualities that I wanted in a man. He is respectful, affectionate, and a serious man who masters the art of communication, forgiveness, and understanding. We have been married for 27 years and together for nearly 30. –Mama & Roro
Oh wow. What a question. I have been married to Steve for 33 years. I knew he was the one because he was open, honest and kind hearted. He did have a hard time making a commitment, after we had dated for 3 years, so we did not see each other for 6 months prior to him deciding I was the one. After that we have been together ever since! –Sheila & Steve
To all of you who shared your stories with us, thank you!
As you can see in the video above, the space was a complete mess a few months ago.
Well, guess what? We have been busy, so the place no longer looks the same. Now, it is inviting even if we still have a lot of work to do.
We will share more photographs of Oasis by Hely when the plants are taller! In the meantime, we are excited to share two of our fun projects with you all: Brunch at Hely’s and Table for Three.
Brunch at Hely’s is self-explanatory, but we would like to add that it is a private social event that takes place once a month in our garden, Oasis by Hely. For a small fee, our guests get to enjoy a lovely brunch around a never-ending conversation.
There is something particularly interesting about Table for Three because it happens on a Friday night, and our guest cooks with us. We get to relax, share recipes, enjoy some delicacies and fine wine… La vie est belle!
P.S.: Special thanks to our design consultant Denis Design Inc.
Most of us like to have personal goals because we are aware of how important personal growth is. What we often forget is to have New Year’s resolutions for our marriage. Why? Because there is always room for improvement. Moreover, if you are in a serious relationship or married, you ought to prioritize your partner. That is why Sugar and I have come up with twelve resolutions that may help you spice things up all year long and/or have a stronger bond.
Here they are:
1. Say “I Love You” more often. Those are definitely magic words!
2. Kiss. More often. Grab your significant other and have a good make-out session…
3. Cultivate common interests. Learn a new hobby with your significant other. For instance, Sugar and I are planning on exercising together.
4. Have sex more often.
5. Try new sex positions every once in a while. Sex should never be boring, guys!
6. Forgive and forget.
7. Do something unexpected for your spouse more often.
8. Breakfast in bed. For him or her. Yes, most men love that.
9. Go on romantic getaways. Please, do not wait for Summer to do so. Sugar and I will definitely enjoy reviewing all the hotels and restaurants we will be going to.
10. Compliment your lover more often. I personally like to leave him a note on the fridge or send him a text during the day.
11. Massage each other. More often.
12. Pray together–if you are religious.
Feel free to share your own resolutions with us. Thanks in advance!