As most of you already know, there are tough times in a marriage–even the healthy ones. And knowing that, you have probably asked yourself whether you are with the right person a million times before.
If you are still wondering, let me ask you this: are you happy despite job loss and unemployment stress, uneven success, miscarriages, times of despair, to name a few? If your answer is yes, then, maybe you are with your person. Why? Because it is not about who your parents expect you to be with, for instance. It is more about who makes you happy no matter what life throws at you both. Moreover, marriage is an institution that is wonderful and complicated at the same time. Rest assured, when one says that he/she is happily married, he/she is not referring to the old fairy-tale ending.
Based on my humble opinion, I think that you may be with a good match if in moments of marital discord, you can step back and think of how grateful you are to have this person in your life. I, myself, can tell you that I knew that Sugar was the one because I felt a sense of rightness when I was about to walk down the aisle. My only hope is that you, too, can be able to identify this feeling and know that you have landed where you are supposed to be.
Sugar and I asked other couples how they knew that their partner was their soulmate and here are their answers:
I have been married to Jordan now for over 2 years (3 years on April 27) and I knew he was the one because he was the first person I had dated who I felt completely comfortable with. I didn’t need to have a guard up and could really be myself around him. I think that’s something that a lot of people overlook in a relationship but to me it is very important. –Natalie & Jordan
I wasn’t the one who chose my husband. He chose me. We got married 5 years after we started dating, but he proposed only two years into the relationship. Since the day we met, I knew he was the one I wanted. –C. B. & P. B., married since 1988
He stood out to me when I realized that he had all the qualities that I wanted in a man. He is respectful, affectionate, and a serious man who masters the art of communication, forgiveness, and understanding. We have been married for 27 years and together for nearly 30. –Mama & Roro
Oh wow. What a question. I have been married to Steve for 33 years. I knew he was the one because he was open, honest and kind hearted. He did have a hard time making a commitment, after we had dated for 3 years, so we did not see each other for 6 months prior to him deciding I was the one. After that we have been together ever since! –Sheila & Steve
To all of you who shared your stories with us, thank you!
Featured photograph by Dave Clement.
He Said Yes! 