One Year Down…

Yesterday, we were celebrating our baby girl’s first birthday, me (the mother who was also born a year ago), and Sugar (surprise pre-birthday party). 

First and foremost, I want to thank God for giving Sugar and I this beautiful and smart little girl. Just knowing that He will be by our side, and especially hers, every step of the way comforts me.

I also want to thank everyone who was able to come celebrate this milestone with us. You all reminded us of how much you care for Victoria, so thank you, once again, for showering her with your love and thoughtful presents!

More importantly, I want my daughter to know that the first year of her life was the best of mine! It was not easy, and that is why I am forever grateful for my family and friends (Mémé, Marla, Fafane, Christian E., Christian L., Teddy, Anthony, Nick, Victoria A., and so many other people) for being there for Peanut one way or another. And to my Sugar, thank you for being my partner, my best friend, and the best father I know! I love you, baby, more than you will ever know!

Last but not least, thank you to you, my grandmother mom, Rose, whom I have always loved like a daughter loves her mother. You were in your mid-fifties when I was born, and although my parents were there, you raised me… Know that I will never be able to thank you enough for everything that you do, and I can only hope to become half the woman you are. You are a gem. You are the apple of my eye, mom! And thank you for loving my baby, your great grandchild, unconditionally.

One year down, and many more to go…
Cheers, you all!

–Happy Mama ❤

Open Letter to my Dear Husband

Dear wonder of my life,

I am taking the time to write you this short letter to remind you how much I appreciate you (not that I don’t say it on a regular basis).

I want you to know that my heart melts every time I think of how much you love and care for our daughter. Parenting is a learning process, but give yourself a pat in the back because you have been doing a great job since the very first time you held her in your arms!

Moreover, thanks for being an amazing husband. After I had given birth to our sweet little girl, I almost always felt like my body was not mine anymore. Fortunately, you were there to remind me every day that I was am beautiful. You made me feel like a woman again. And for that, I am forever grateful!

Whenever you are back from work, you always tell me that I should just relax because “daddy’s home.” Thanks for letting me decompress even when you, too, are exhausted.

Thanks for all the times you brought me my favorite doughnut or Chinese food because you could tell that I had a bad day. Or for the times that you called me during the day just to tell me that I am a great mother.

Thanks for the countless foot rubs.

Thanks for leaving me sweet notes in the bathroom or on the refrigerator.

Thanks for being so patient and understanding.

14 Fun Questions to Ask Your Date on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Have a date? Don’t worry. Here are 14 questions that can help you break the ice. You’re welcome!

1.  What are your favorite midnight snacks?

2. Who is your favorite author?

3. What is on your bedside table?

4. What does your perfect day look like?

5. Toppings on pizza?

6. What type of person are you: beer, wine, or coffee?

7. What was your most embarrassing moment?

8. One language you would like to learn?

9. Are you a romantic person?

10. What is your best way to relax?

11. Four (4) places you would love to visit?

12. What is your favorite drink?

13. What is the weirdest thing about you?

14. Dog or cat?

What other questions would you add to the list? Please, share.

12 New Year’s Resolutions for Every Couple

Most of us like to have personal goals because we are aware of how important personal growth is. What we often forget is to have New Year’s resolutions for our marriage. Why? Because there is always room for improvement. Moreover, if you are in a serious relationship or married, you ought to prioritize your partner. That is why Sugar and I have come up with twelve resolutions that may help you spice things up all year long and/or have a stronger bond.

Here they are:

1. Say “I Love You” more often. Those are definitely magic words!

2. Kiss. More often. Grab your significant other and have a good make-out session…

3. Cultivate common interests. Learn a new hobby with your significant other. For instance, Sugar and I are planning on exercising together.

4. Have sex more often.

5. Try new sex positions every once in a while. Sex should never be boring, guys!

6. Forgive and forget.

7. Do something unexpected for your spouse more often.

8. Breakfast in bed. For him or her. Yes, most men love that.

9. Go on romantic getaways. Please, do not wait for Summer to do so. Sugar and I will definitely enjoy reviewing all the hotels and restaurants we will be going to.

10. Compliment your lover more often. I personally like to leave him a note on the fridge or send him a text during the day.

11. Massage each other. More often.

12. Pray together–if you are religious.

Feel free to share your own resolutions with us. Thanks in advance!

Our Relationship Is Not The Same Anymore

Yes, you read that right.

When we got married last year, we thought that was it. We thought so many things to tell you guys the truth, so you can imagine our surprise when we started realizing that our relationship was not the same anymore…

A few days ago, I was driving us back home, and Sugar touched my hand and said, “You are the one for me…” I just melted—figuratively, of course. I knew that he meant it.

Last year, I was just a girl saying yes, but now, I know I am his everything. Not because he says so, but because I know so. His actions constantly prove it to me!

My point is that I am grateful for the good and bad times, and the so-so ones.  Thanks to them, our relationship is not the same anymore: it is stronger!

Getting married is not it, staying married is! Respecting your partner and being patient with him/her are vital components of a healthy marriage. Make sure that your own relationship is not static. You should be able to grow closer to your spouse and create a deeper love.

Please, feel free to share your thoughts! 🙂

9 Things You Should Say More Often to Your Partner

Based on my relationship with my husband, I think that one should say those things to his/her significant other on a regular basis…

• You make me happy!
• I love you! This one is vital!
• I am proud of you!
• You are beautiful/handsome!
• You are intelligent!
• You are a great lover! Both men and women need to hear that; however, in my opinion, it seems to be more important to guys than it is to us, women. That can really boost a man’s ego, too!
• You are a strong person!
• Thank you! Try not to take each other for granted! One should acknowledge the efforts of his/her partner every once in a while.
• I believe in you! Knowing that Sugar believes in me motivates me so much!

It is also worth noting that one should always be sincere… Please, do not lie to someone just because you think that is what he/she wants to hear!

My Sweetheart!

So often when I am embracing you,
It seems that you exist in this world
only because of me and I exist because of you.

It’s not easy to wander in this world
and not lose one’s way,
but the greatest happiness of all
is in giving joy to one’s beloved.

And if the king can have his throne,
and if the bird can have his Spring nest,
and God can have his heaven,
then I, my sweetheart, I can have you!

– Jonathan Townsend –

Source: here.

I Don’t Twerk, I Blog

This morning, WordPress woke me up with a notification saying “Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com!”

Happy Anniversary not only to me, but also to you, my faithful readers. I hope that you are enjoying the ride with me!

Special thank you to Sugar, Anya, and Ingrid, for they are my biggest fans. They always make suggestions, and leave me comments regularly. Know that I really appreciated it! ❤

So yeah, it has already been a year since I started twerking blogging! Please, keep coming back! 😀

Cheers,

Helena

My Goddess Journey

I have just started on what will be a long journey; I am learning how to embrace the woman I am. It may sound cliché, but I am really discovering who I am as a human being and as a young spouse. With my qualities and imperfections. My temple/body and my dreams.

Why did I add my marital status to the list? Well, being married influences the choices and the decisions that I make on a daily basis. And oh, marriage did change me! Let me explain myself… A year ago, I would only wear lingerie for a special occasion, but now I find each day special. I have come to the realization that I ought to pamper myself more often, so that is why I am currently in the process of having a vanity area in our bedroom. I also enjoy buying new stuff for the house, and establishing family traditions. I call going after whatever brings happiness and inner peace into my life–pursuit of happiness: my Goddess Journey!

I think that it is safe to say that I am on this personal journey thanks to my loving husband. He always talks about how perfect I am. And please, note that I am aware that he does not mean it literally because… I am human! Anyway, my point is that having him embrace who I am made me want to discover the woman he sees in me and loves so dearly!

I have to admit that my Goddess Journey has been such a great initiative so far, for it has helped me feel so worthy of love and reconnect with nature. The latter is definitely one of the reasons why I started my own business Helena’s Treat™. I am captivated by nature (crystals, fauna and flora, etc.), and that causes me to enjoy swimming, horseback riding, kayaking, snorkeling, just to name a few. Furthermore, I am not just any creature: I am the daughter of a King, and since my temple/body is also His, I take good care of it and say nice things to it. It is no one’s responsibility but mine to please my inner goddess! And guess what? I can guarantee you that this journey is already helping me grasp who I aspire to be in the future!

Now, ask yourself: what type of woman do I want to be? Then, use the love that this special person–God, your mother, your partner, or a friend–has for you as a “foundation.” Knowing that somebody loves you unconditionally will encourage you to believe in yourself, and it will help you  grow as a human being. I strongly believe that it is important for you to go on your own Goddess Journey–if you haven’t started already, of course–because there is always room for improvement!

I, myself, know that I want to be a woman that my daughter or son would be proud of!

Cheers to this new journey! ❤

P.S: I cannot wait to share with you all what I plan on doing for my birthday! 😀

3 Marriage Myths

1. When you are married, you have sex every day! 

Here is what people could probably say instead: married couples are free to have sex whenever they want.

Some weeks you will actually be able to have sex on a daily basis, but on others, you just won’t as often as you usually do. And if the latter causes a problem in your marriage, you should probably try not to have sex as the center of your relationship.

Moreover, that is why it is very important for you to keep your sex life interesting by keeping your man interested. How so? You can always check my page Surprise Your Man for some fun ideas.

2. Marriage is for everybody.

I hate to break it to you guys, but marriage is definitely not for everybody. The truth is that marriage does not guarantee happiness in life. Some people get married and are very happy while others never get married and are as much as happy as them. On the other hand, some married couples are just miserable.

Stay true to yourself, and do what is best for you! 🙂

3. If you truly love your spouse, you should not have conflict.

This is so erroneous because conflict can also be a good thing in relationships, in general.

If you consistently agree with your partner: there is a problem! In other words, that is probably a sign that you are not in a healthy relationship!

Always make sure that you are able to express your opinion. Most importantly, keep in mind that the collaborating style of conflict is the best of all because no one has to compromise. There is a middle ground, and both people feel respected and understood.